So it’s actually a healthy emotion that we all (rightly) feel from time to time, but if you’re not expressing anger in an efficient way, that can be a problem, says counselor Sharonda “Nya B” Brown, LPC-S.Īs someone who has struggled with communicating my anger my entire life, I know firsthand how challenging it can be. And, believe it or not, people who are comfortable feeling anger during a conflict (compared to those who err on the side of happiness) have higher emotional intelligence, research suggests. It matters what you do with your rage.Īnger can serve many useful purposes, like motivating you to overcome obstacles and helping you to find creative solutions to a problem. And as tough as it may be to control sometimes, there are strategies that help you express anger in a healthier way. Maybe you were passed over for a promotion, got stood up for a date, or were expected to act fine after the Supreme Court dismantled 50 years of reproductive rights in an instant. Maybe your kids left their toys out or your roommate ate your leftovers again.
